Disappointment
When you are hopeful and that hope is not matched then you are left feeling disappointed. This can be because you placed expectations on how things should be. You believed that things would be as you imagined and when a person or situation does not meet those expectations then you are left discontented. Let me tell you a secret about this then.
Life isn’t fair, never has been and never will be. It makes people rise to meet it, and if you aren’t willing to do the work then you will always be left in disappointment. Everything comes from you. Your actions, feelings, thoughts, words, all of it is in your control. Now what’s outside of you, your career, your partners, your family, friends, etc, well that’s out of your control. So what leaves you feeling disappointed is when you try to control things outside yourself to the way you want it. Taking that thought that oh my boyfriend will do this for me even though I never asked, and when he doesn’t do that thing, you are left feeling like wow what a jerk. He should of just done it, I would do it for him. See how that can spiral out and create chaos in a relationship? If you want someone to do something then ask them, communicate with them about what you want. Don’t put hopes on them doing something in your mind.
Now what if you just have been let down by someone or something else. Like for me today something was suppose to arrive, and it won’t be here until tomorrow. This is something I am excited and have been waiting for for a little while. At first I was disappointed, like probably 2 minutes but that energy went out into the universe. And then after I felt it, a few minutes later I was trying to be scammed by someone on instagram. Oh please be careful about someone saying they won the lottery and want to give you money. I am a detective when it comes to finding out if something is truthful and real. I reported him and his 20 other accounts because that is something I don’t stand for. I was scammed once when I was 18, and luckily I didn’t lose any money in the process but I could of. Anyways my disappointment for not getting that other thing sent this instagram scam to me. Sure I wanted that to be true that I was about to get some money. It would of been an amazing thing to happen. And yea sure I fantasized about how I would use it. And that is when I was left with disappointment yet again.
When you feel that feeling it can bring you down a slippery slope so lets be proactive about it. Ask yourself was this something you could control. Now remember the only things you can control are you and you alone. Ask yourself if it is something I can control then what can I do to change the circumstances? What can I do to help my mindset not feel disappointed? If things are out of your control remind yourself of that. This thing is out of my control, it does not reflect on me. I also like to say out loud to myself, ok I no longer accept this as my reality, and as I say those words I am thinking about all the great things in my life. I allow my mind to shift to a different perspective and out of the frequency of disappointment. Because as I said before like attracts like, and when you feel this then more will come.
I challenge you to look at the way you view others. Do you put them on a pedestal? That they are perfect versions in your mind and when they don’t live up to that you are left feeling disappointed? I want you to stop expecting greatness from everyone. Expect nothing from them. Because we are all human, we all make mistakes. Accept someone for where they are at, see it as them and don’t take it personal. By being in control of just you you extinguish the fires of disappointment and expectations. Stay in your lane because the moment you start wondering if someone else cares or is going to be the person you hope them to be you will only be heartbroken when they are not. This is a hard thing to master because we want to believe in the best of someone. We want them to be how we view them. But you never know what’s someone else is going through or the obstacles they face, so just accept them for where they are now.
Today I am at a 6. Maintaining this level at least! WOOHOO