Demand It
“If you want crappy things to stop happening to you, then stop accepting crap and demand something more.” Dr. Cristina Yang from Greys Anatomy.
So many times we complain about shit and start having our very own pity party about how life isn’t fair. Well duh, life isn’t ever fair and thats what makes it so great. It shapes you and transforms you into someone amazing if you allow all those problems to be positive lessons. Or you can allow it to knock you the fuck down and never get back up. That’s what happens to a lot of people. The mistakes, the obstacles, the shit that happens outside of your control comes in and knocks you down and then many people stay there. Wallowing and staying in the filth of their victim hood. I’ve been there plenty so I speak from personal experience.
What can you do though when life hands you lemons? Or you hand yourself lemons? Cause you know a lot of times we get in our own way, actually all of the time. As Bruce Lee says be like water. If you are acting like a rigid unmoving structure, stuck in your stubborn close mindedness, allowing that ego to be inflated and self centered then no matter what happens you never grow from the experience. But if you act like water, always flowing with things, flexible, then you create every experience to be one of some type of growth, no matter how difficult and hard it is. So what do you do with the Lemons? Well you can make lemonade. You can take this hard obstacle and see it for what it is. A temporary road block in your life that isn’t going to last forever. Either you move around it, stop and wait, or you blow right the fuck through it and cause more carnage. Which one do you want to be?
Do you keep allowing the same types of behaviors and patterns and cycles affect your life? Same fake friends that show their highlight reels about how they are amazing and you long to be a part of it? And you keep finding the same types of people who always keep you on the outside? Well look at yourself, what the fuck are you accepting here? Demand better relationships, and not just from people, but from yourself. Demand better from you. Do you want to keep having those types of relationships? Do you want to keep get overlooked for a promotion? Or are you ready to demand more of yourself and life? Recognize your part in it, recognize what you allow. That will give you clear definitions of what you do and don’t want anymore. Then comes the work. You have to give up trying to impress or care what people think. You have to do better for you. Find better people for you, show up more and be heard at work for you. Because no one is going to include you, you have to do it yourself.
So what are some things you can start demanding from yourself? What things do you no longer want to be in your life and what things do you want to start including? What have you settled for? What have you allowed because your lonely, or scared, or feeling low self worth? How do you demand more from you and in turn change what is coming in to greet you?
You change your systems. If before you would wallow about how you don’t have close relationships and people leave you out or whatever then recognize it and change it. Don’t allow your time to be focused on such trivial bullshit. Because that mental focus you put on others is time wasted on improving yourself, and your circumstances. Where you focus your attention, like if you have a lack of support then you will only see that, if you focus on how amazing you are and that you are successful then you will be that. You have to change the way you focus your mental energy. If you are giving it away to other people then you stop living for you and give away your power. Demand more, demand better, and stop accepting crap!
Today I was at a 6 1/2. A little tired and sore.