Consistency over time.
Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.
Reading back on the first post I made about consistency gave me some things I need to add to this. In my post, “Consistency,” I speak about the fight, I speak about the word try, and I speak about the facts that it’s not always sunshine. When I speak about it again for my 1 year anniversary blog, I speak on challenging the reader to pick 1 thing and doing it daily, or 3-4 times a week depending on what it is and stick with it just for a month. Creating habits they say takes 30 days and after that it means it becomes easier. (Not always, it just becomes more natural than forced.) But I want to speak more on consistency because over the past year it has become one of my greatest strengths.
When you think of consistency what is the first thing you think of? Hard work, effort, practice, must have self-discipline and other things. Now take a look at yourself, do those other words apply to you? Reality check… if they don’t this is where you should sit down and listen because if you are not those things with your life then you are allowing yourself to be less than what you truly are.
Some of the biggest pull backs as to why people can’t be consistent is their own stories, their own excuses, their own lies they tell themselves. You are your own worst enemy because you halt your progress not anyone else. Blame is the biggest proponent of why so many people live at half capacity. Blaming your past, your family, your lack of time, your job, your kids, your this or that, it pushes the responsibility from you to them. Blame is the biggest excuse maker there is, and it starts with you not being right with you. It is not a THEM problem its a YOU problem, so the way you start becoming consistent is by taking responsibility for you.
Steps to achieve consistency in your own life:
1. Take responsibility for yourself. This means your emotions, your trauma, your healing, your schedule, your priorities, YOU!
2. Schedule it as a PRIORITY!
3. DO IT!
It’s really this simple to be consistent. There are no great all encompassing secrets or magic buttons you can push. That’s just not how it works. The first step is the one that will let you take control of the 2nd and 3rd. If you don’t take control of you first then you will cling to outside validations, blame games and feeling like you just aren’t capable of being motivated or disciplined. But the truth is you are, you just have to take charge.
“As soon as you truly commit to making something happen, the “How” will reveal itself…”-Tony Robbins
To find motivation and stay committed all comes from within. How bad do you want it? How much do you want to give to it? How much does this dream mean to you? Ask yourself what it would mean if you didn’t follow through with it. When I began this blog I just knew I wanted to help people with my words, I committed to one thing. That one thing allowed me to hone in on stuff that I wanted to change. The next thing was becoming consistent for a year by writing an essay even if it sucked, just do it. Every step along the way showed me what I was capable of and the only way that I became consistent was by doing it. By holding myself accountable and putting that pressure on myself to just follow through I was able to do it for an entire year!
You just have to do it. Because if you don’t that story in your head is never going to change. You will just allow it to continue to get louder, more angry, more sad, more resentful because you chose to quit.
Everyone is always saying take care of you first so that you can take care of others, and this is true. But once you are in a space where you are taking responsibility for you then taking care of others helps you to take care of you. We feel more joy when we give then receive, we feel more alive with others there. Connections can help you stay consistent by holding you accountable. When I wanted to just put off writing I thought of a few people and imaged them and what they would say every time I wanted to give up. It got ugly and sometimes brutal but it scared me awake because even though I was imagining them, the entire time it was me. I didn’t want to fail them and most of all I didn’t want to fail myself. So if you need some help imagine someone you admire and look up to, imagine the look of disappointment if you give up yet again. Imagine the feeling and feel it, it’s a shitty feeling and I was tired of feeling shitty. Every time I wrote was a small victory in my head to prove them wrong, or show them what I was made of but ultimately it was me showing me.
If you have a hard time sticking with something you can try that tactic, scare yourself so much that you have no other choice other than to fight back and get after it. I don’t want you to attach bad things to this, because fear isn’t the point here. I want to light a fire under your ass that makes you realize, Oh shit I have to move. I have to take control or I’m going to die. (Maybe not that extreme, or maybe that extreme depending on you.) The point of this is just to get you out of this pity, lack mentality into this charging rhino who is creating abundance.
So are you going to keep blaming the world for your lack of commitment to you? Or are you ready to commit and get consistent with yourself and your dreams? Like always the choice is up to you my friends.
Today was a 8.