Relationships
Have you ever been at a point where you feel alone or need someone? And you wish someone would reach out and just be there for you in your time of need. Well how about the reverse of this? Have you ever reached out to friends or people because you have a feeling or you just want to check in on them? Remember that phrase give to others as you wish done unto you? Well that is exactly what this means here, if you aren’t putting in the work then what makes you think other’s will put in the work?
Relationships are a two way street. But some of us think that people are there for us no matter what right? Wrong, there is a limit. The limit is when their self worth and time matters more to them then you. Sad but true fact. Think about your relationships, that means everything not just romantic. What is a theme of them? For me it’s that I have distant friendships. I’ve been this way for years because of the isolation I was forced into, so I got use to the distance I have. Also I tend to invite in people that use me out of convenience. But do I use people as a convenience as well? That is what I mean by reflecting. Ask yourself if you do the same thing in return. Maybe it can help pinpoint where you are in relationships.
My relationships with people aren’t that of a convenience, I desire deep, loving relationships. I just was taught to ask for permission to have friends, I was always the outcast, and I did for a long time use people as a convenience to my situation. I’m not proud of it, but it was a survival instinct. But as I have grown and matured and got the help I needed I was able to put that to bed. Now I have loving relationships in my life, and am letting those go that did use me as a convenience. I know how to break my cycle by understanding not all friendships last, we don’t always have common interests. By not putting expectations on things, and mostly by being myself.
Relationships are meant for us to grow, and we are suppose to help those around us grow as well. That doesn’t always mean sunshine and rainbows, it can be thunderstorms and tornados. We need that for our own growth, that’s why it’s important to always communicate and be honest. So what can you do then? Be supportive, be there for others you wish for them to be there for you, and if they aren’t then find people who will be. Learn your own limits and boundaries so that you can enforce them. Because you are worthy of extraordinary relationships. Just because you are where you are now doesn’t mean it will be that way forever. Be able to adapt and do it with kindness and compassion! Reach out to people, you never know if that helps them. You supporting someone could be a turning point for them, and that is how we help heal the world. One act of kindness at a time.
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