Getting after that mentality
There is going to be days where you aren’t going to be 100%. Get after it anyways. Like say you are hating something about yourself I want you to instead look at that same thing as an opportunity. Look at it like the biggest step towards loving yourself. That thing you hate or reject or are angry at or whatever is a reminder for you to use love and kindness, especially when its the things about yourself. So when your day is just cusping that 50% I want you to find a way to boost it up just a bit with some hard core loving on you!
When we feel depleted we tend to allow ourselves to get defeated. It’s when you already feel down that you are the most susceptible to all that inner noise in your head. It’s because we are beneath our thresholds of positivity and motivation. This threshold varies from person to person, day to day. Basically everyday you wake up is going to be different. You may be more upbeat and on top of your game, or you may be feeling only at 70% of your good normal self. This is okay, it’s human to have off days. The thing is you want to combat those days with love! Seriously if you are already in a state where you feel meh, if you have one negative thought your more bound to focus on the negative. That could become a spiral.
Like for instance the other day I was not feeling on top of my game. I felt off and that caused me to think about all these things that were negative or not even related to how I was feeling. Now if I would of been 100% then I believe that my view of things would be different. But because I was already feeling a little down that dragged me even further. Why? Like attracts like, so if you are feeling crummy then you are bound to attract crummy things, thoughts, events, all of the nonsense.
That is why it is so important in those moments to boost yourself up. Feeling down about your jiggle thighs, instead look at that as an opportunity to show yourself love. My legs are strong and powerful. I love them and admire how they create the ability for me to walk. Take those criticisms, those judgements, those ridicules of your own making and kick them out!! Turn it around and find a reason to embrace whatever it is you are hammering at. It will help you not only break that negative cycle, but gain confidence. When we create positive momentum by complimenting ourselves, loving who we are, or just kicking that mean girl in the teeth that can change a crummy day into an amazing day anyways.
Finding a reason to love yourself and love all the things in your day will bring more joy into your life. Because it takes so much more energy to be negative and hateful then it does to be kind and compassionate. Like say you are on your way to work and you get a flat tire. Sure it sucks, but don’t look at it as if it’s ruined your entire day or week. Don’t claim the energy by saying well just my luck or this always happens. If you do, KNOW WONDER IT KEEPS HAPPENING!! Allow it to be a moment to find gratitude. This happened to me about 2 weeks ago and I was grateful for it because if it didn’t happen then I wouldn’t of been able to drive my car down to the city to bring someone to the airport. I had to get new tires and an alignment so because that happened it gave me the opportunity to help someone else while being safe. I had been meaning to add air to the tire to begin with. When that happened it sucked because I had to reschedule things but I’m glad it happened then rather than a snow storm.
That is why I am saying things may suck, your mentality may be shot but don’t give in to the negative parts of those things. It’s okay for shit to happen and to be upset but dwelling on it, focusing all your mental energy on it is not. It just makes more stupid shit happen and can even cause depression or anxiety. Learn to pick yourself up even if something isn’t going your way or you wake up tired and bring that 50% to a 75%. You will feel better, more accomplished and awesome because you put the effort in to change your mentality. We are in complete control of that, so chose to be open, chose to take the good out of the situation and chose to love instead of perpetuate the crap show.
Today was a 7.