5 ways to find your motivation
Some people seem to have this drive and passion that sets them apart from the rest. They are always doing rather than sitting still and wondering. How do they get that way? What is their secret to being so damn motivated? Well let me tell you I use to think these exact thoughts when I saw people constantly working hard and reaching their goals and dreams. A part of me was even jealous and believed there was something wrong with me because I was just coasting by on autopilot. Why did I just keep allowing myself to work, go home, wallow, and stay stagnant. Where was my joy? I’d settle in the comfort rather than pushing myself past it and putting in the effort. So what changed this?
My mentality. I got so fucking tired of myself and when you get tired of you then you know shit is about to go down. I got tired of my excuses, my stories, my inactions, my pity party that I started a blog. Last year I got so tired of not expanding my business, not investing in myself, not following through that I decided enough was enough and put my money where my mouth was. I wrote this blog everyday for a year, even when I had nothing to write about I did it anyways. I practiced consistency while going through depression, while going through anxiety, while going through my fears and wound up here. Here are the five things I did to get here and they may not sound nice but in order to succeed you sometimes have to be an asshole.
CALL YOURSELF OUT!
I looked at where I was and all the crying, complaining, inaction I was doing and called myself out on it. Listen if you are dealing with trauma then see a therapist, do the internal work and after that I want you to call yourself out. There are people who are going to tell you to work on that inner child and yes that’s great but for me I needed to be brutally honest. Question yourself, get up in your face about your life. Are you happy? Is this the best you can do? Are you really okay settling in contentment? Are you done being an entitled brat who thinks the world owes you because you went through stuff? Are you done using your past as an excuse for why you can’t live now? It got darker then this for me but you need to be honest with yourself. Stop using your past as an excuse. Stop complaining about everyone else, they have nothing to do with you. You are the only one in control of you, not me, not your family, not your partner, YOU!
2. GET CONSISTENT.
If you want to see some improvement then you need to practice. Everyday you need to be grinding something to get you closer to your dreams or goals. If it’s working out I’m not saying you need to be doing hardcore workouts everyday but you need to move everyday. If you aren’t moving then you need to be researching diet, rehabilitation, mobility training, etc. If you want something YOU have to do it, and this means learning about all angles. I didn’t know how to write but I did it anyways. I took a class on writing that helped me, I read books, looked at other peoples blogs, then learned how to do graphics. I was always learning how to get better and practiced everyday getting better. There is no magic button, you have to SUCK AT FIRST before you are going to excel. It’s the human experience so get use to it, or just stay stagnant and not living. It’s up to you.
Being consistent is the number one key to success. It’s not some secret. Look at Warren Buffet, he just set his investment and never dropped them. Consistency pays off 100% even if it takes years or decades.
3. COMPETITION
Stop looking at everyone else as your competition, you are your competition. If you compare yourself to Sandra then how the fuck does that make sense? Seriously did you guys have the same exact life, same thoughts, same body, same Dna, same everything? NO. So how can you ever compare yourself to someone else? You are your competition and what I mean by that is you are going to be what you compete against tomorrow. Everyday you should be a beginner starting over trying to become better than you were yesterday. Don’t compare yourself to 3 years ago you, you aren’t even on the same wavelength anymore. The only competition you have is you from yesterday nothing else. Everyday I try to impress myself, some days I fail, some days I succeed. Not everyday is going to be an on day and that’s okay. Just make sure that you don’t give up because it isn’t. Compete with you and you will win! I never invested in myself like todays version of me, and tomorrow I will push myself to believe in me even harder. It’s all about you when you compete, everything else is outside of you and out of your control. You are in control of you so makes sense that you are your only competition.
4. LISTEN TO INSPIRING AUDIOBOOKS, PODCASTS, YOUTUBES, ETC.
Start reading things that inspire you, listen to music that gets your blood pumping. Use other peoples successes as inspirations rather than comparisons. Hearing how someone else succeeded should show you that it’s possible, that type of possibility means that if you apply the mantra of Dare to Habit, create, empower, implement, become then all’s you have to do is be patient. Surround yourself with people who are powerhouses, who know success and drink it everyday. Surround yourself with books and things that bring something into your life rather than taking from you. We become what we think so if you are a gossip queen and talking about others is what fuels you then sorry but I don’t have time or want to know you. “Great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, and small minds discuss people.”- Eleanor Roosevelt. If you want to be great then surround yourself with greatness and how to expand it.
5. CHANGE YOUR HABITS.
One of the harder ones I know but it can be done. Let’s say you take the same way home everyday because it’s the fastest and easiest route. You see the same trees, the same buildings, the same shops and views, but then one day you decide to take a different route. During that drive you start to feel more alive, more aware and awake all because you get to take in different stimuli. You play different music and enjoy the different route because it’s new and exciting. But then that too in time becomes dull, (Be the beginner everyday and you won’t ever be bored.) So again you change your route and explore another possibility but this time you feel different because you know this too will pass. That is when instead of taking different routes you change your job because it’s limiting what you can see and do, you move your house because maybe it lacked something inspiring. Now you are changing your life all because you decided to change the route. Yes it’s that simple. Your mind always wants to be stimulated and introduced to new things because CHANGE is the one thing that is constant. Us clinging to daily routines and structure is just our way of trying to control things. It is when you begin to explore outside your comfort zone that you gain a taste of what it’s like to be a part of the world. Get comfortable being uncomfortable, and start working on habits that build you up. If you are a smoker find ways to quit smoking and then start something creative or constructive or physical to replace it with. Deal with the avoidance because that’s what addiction is and tap into your true potential.
These 5 things are what helped me change my life. I use to be afraid of living because I didn’t think I was capable of greatness. I allowed my past to dictate my present and future, and let it be an excuse for why I couldn’t. I would quit things and never look back because it just got to hard. I found every reason to fight against the current and it wasn’t until I grabbed a tube and started floating down the river that I realized it’s easier if we just let go of needing to control. Life is going to happen regardless of your freak outs, your rigid control, if you can meet it and just float down that lazy river it’s going to be a freaking much more fantastic ride rather than trying to swim upstream. It’s your choice like always how you want to live. Are you ready to Dare to Habit?
Today was a 8.