Open up and speak your truth

Have you allowed yourself to keep things instead of telling people how they cross your boundaries? Have you talked about things to others instead of the people who you feel that way towards? Listen Ive been there. I held in for so long, talked to others about it instead of the very person who I needed to confront. Let me tell you something it solves nothing. Avoidance is the key to anger. If you avoid you create anxiety which then bottles in and then creates anger. 

Today I spoke my truth to my father as we worked together. I didn’t come from a place of anger, it came from a place of vulnerability. I was honest about a lot of things and my hope is that I will create a better relationship with him. I was avoiding him because I had so much pent up anger I couldnt stand it. And when I finally spoke to him about things I released a big portion of that anger. I am still feeling angry but its because I have other things to release with others. 

So do you have some grievances you need to release? Know its okay, know that if its real for you then you need to address it. Dont allow anyone to tell you how to deal with your baggage, meaning don’t let someone invalidate your feelings. If you need to address something to move forward then allow yourself to do so. If you need to confront something even though time ha passed then allow yourself to confront it. Time is irrelevant to your process. We all process things at different times, and if it takes you a while then its okay. Fear is a very powerful feeling, it can push you to avoid conflict or your own feelings and triggers. I know how scary it can be. You can psyche yourself out, create more anxiety around the situation and make it bigger then it really is. But once you address it you create change. You create freedom from it and that feeling is liberating. 

What can you do to open up about your feelings? Write them down, make a list, talk to a therapist about it, but own them. They are yours, no one caused you to feel that way. Sure peoples actions can cause hurt feelings. I know I’m guilty of hurting people and vice versa. But how you handle that is your choice. You bottle it in thats on you. You avoid them thats on you. You ignore them thats on you. No matter what you do they will find a way to keep cycling in your life until you release them. So I suggest you buck up and take charge. 

It will save you from years of anger and animosity.  

Also when you approach anything so it from a place of vulnerability. Don’t speak in anger or rage, don’t be defensive or accusatory. You have to come from a place that is truth and level headedness. That was me today and It felt better then hulking out. Remember people are people, sometimes they don’t see how their actions affect others. So be kind in this approach, you’ll feel better in the long run. Regret can be a bitch so approach everything in a way you wont look back and regret it. 

Today I was at a 5. I need more sleep, it was so disrupted.