True Strength

We all strive to be tough, to show we have grit and that we are a put together masterpiece. But what if really the person you see before you is on their last legs mentally. They act cool but inside their is so much turmoil and anxiety about the future. How would you ever know what that person is going through if you don’t walk a mile in their shoes? How do we change this? Through vulnerability, and shifting the way society views emotions, regardless if they are negative or positive. 

Now that is a huge paradigm to shift there, but it all starts with one person. We make ripples then splashes then waves and soon we find ourselves connecting with others rather then nose deep in a screen wishing you had an intimate connection with friends, your partner, family, etc. Intimate does not mean sex people, intimacy is a closeness, a connection that is shared between individuals that is quality and personal. But here we are opening up ourselves to share what’s going on. Then what happens the judgement, the haters, the shamers, the bullshit naysayers, and you are left back at square one shutting down rather then speaking up and out. 

If we taught children at a young age communication, emotions, how to interact with conflict, how to speak your truth, and stand up for yourself I think that would be a great place to start the shift. Empathy is a great friend to everyone, it allows you to step back and try walking in someone else’s life for a bit. Or read the energy of a room or person. Skills to create growth and acceptance, skills to assist in abundance and being responsible for your own happiness that is what we need to teach our children. Understanding no one can make you feel anything. Your emotions are entirely yours. Man imagine a world like that? But instead we pretend we are godlike, guarding ourselves every minute from others. Never allowing anyone to see our mistakes, our inadequacies, our freak outs. Acting like nothing is wrong on a screen but our damn reality is collapsing beneath us and we feel helpless and alone. That is how depression is more prevalent nowadays. A world full of likes and all these sad faces. 

Now I want you to ask yourself are you carrying the weight on your shoulders. If you don’t carry that great big boulder then everything will crumble beneath you right? Shit wouldn’t you like to unload it and be free to run and play and cart wheel the fuck outta here? Well you can, by facing it. By asking yourself why do I have to be so “fake strong”? Fake strong is just that, pretending everything is okay, carrying a huge load around, and doing it alone because others won’t understand or they will judge you. That is the kind of strength that gets you no where but burnt out, and depressed. Shit I know this because I was that for so long. Carrying around my pain like this sad schmuck, holding on to it so tight it was the only thing keeping me from falling. But when I let it go, when I let the world see me, my traumas, my mistakes, my fuck ups, my fears, that is when I felt free and more strength then ever. Because you have nothing to lose now, you shown your cards, you have no hidden closet snakes ready to bite you once the world finds out. There is literally nothing I wouldn’t talk about now in regards to my past. True strength comes from being human, from being broken at times, from being emotional and weak. It comes from making mistakes and failing, it comes from allowing yourself to be seen with flaws out, hair down, and in your birthday suit! 

So what steps can you take to start hanging out with your wang out? Well find someone you’re comfortable with and tell them how you feel. Open up even if you are scared that they won’t accept you for it, even if you think they will shame you or try to invalidate you. How they treat you is a reflection of them, not you, your strength comes from being authentically you that means everything. Your hopes, dreams, emotions, fears, how you feel in this moment. By talking about these parts of you, you free yourself to explore the possibility that maybe it’s not working. I opened up about my depression, my sense of loneliness, my anxiety and the things of my past. Can I tell you that the amount of support and love was tremendous and changed me. I’m so loved and admired, especially from myself to myself. Now I am asking you, what is really so scary about telling someone you need them right now because you are feeling alone. Or asking a friend to come by because you just had your heart ripped out. What is so bad about when someone asks you how you are really telling them. If they look at you like you are strange look at them and say don’t ask if you don’t truly care. I hope you open yourself up for vulnerability to come in and start changing the game. I hope you allow yourself that type of strength my friend. Because it is a game changer!!

Today was a 9 1/2! Empowered as fuck plus got to get stuff off my chest today! Yay!